Sharing Dance with your Child

Thank you to all my friends who have been supporting my work as a dance movement therapist and educator. 

A friend who attended my ‘Sharing Dance with your Child’ last year, recently sent me her sharing on her blog and has given me permission to share with you.

The nature of our work as therapists, we are abide by ethical code, we never disclose information about our clients we worked with in the therapy settings unless they personally give us permission to do so. Most of the time, our work can still be new and unknown with the fact it is confidential. However, this form of therapy has already been around since the 1960s.

Even in my workshops/sessions (non-therapy), I always respect my participants and will ask permission for photo-taking and testimony to be put up on my blog. No doubt, it is non-therapy, it is to respect each individual’s privacy.

Even I run workshops/sessions which are non-therapy, the approaches I adopt are based from the training in dance therapy I had, integrating my skills as a teacher in combination with other studies. Namely, the approaches I use which can also be read in my website, ‘Embodied Movement’, such as attunement, containing and holding environment, boundary, working at where the participants are at, reading nonverbal cues, being seen, taking into account the emotional and relational aspects.

Hereby, I explain how I actually run a session based on the principles, approaches and concepts of dance movement therapy and it is non-therapy. I share in the next issue on the difference between a non-therapy and a therapy session.

Every parent and child is different. Every child is also in different phase and developmental milestone. In the first session, it is natural that some children are more prone to observing, waiting, scanning about the environment and people especially it is new. Giving time and space for both parent and child to adjust and feel at ease is essential. Sometimes a child may take a longer time to ‘warm-up’. 

As a facilitator of the session especially for the first session, nonverbal cues of each individual will provide me information of where they will be at, at the moment. If I feel that the child needs more time, I will always verbalise to the parent that some children will prefer to observe and watch first and take time to warm-up. They can join later when the child is ready. The approach is to hold and contain the space, to make it safe for both the parent and child and the acceptance of the uniqueness of each parent and child.(Sharing of one approaches)

My friend, the mum, she herself has made a conscious choice and is aware of what is likely to happen. What is beautiful to read is that she constantly reflects and she has deliberately giving permission to herself and her child that it is all right to be shy. She has contained and set boundary for her child with the conscious decision of staying and by being encouraging and supportive towards her child’s feelings. When I read it, I was very touched and almost to tears -  it is an honest, authentic account of the journey between mother and child.  
  
As a therapist or facilitator, no matter how small the significant process took place, when I witness it, in  my heart, I know it is the beginning journey of further deepening of mother-child bonding relationship.

With the trained eye of observing nonverbal cues, I was able to witness what was going on and am honoured to have witnessed the beautiful process between my friend and her child in the 'Sharing Dance with your Child' session.

Blog - i was (still am) a shy little person

(My sharing is unedited and it is based on personal reflection.)

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Witnessing the movement between mum & child

To share more photos here with you what actually took place later at the end (permission given by mother to share) and the blog of the account of the journey in the session that day.